The New Warm-Hearted Man…
A man who cares and is not afraid to show it.
Times have changed a lot especially for relationships and many a times for the good.
Many aspects of relationships have changed like the boundaries, expectations, efforts, social standings, social acceptance, and much more.
The boundaries are diluting and at the same time being set in a different way…..
It’s a new phenomenon that couples are understanding and appreciating the concept of personal space. In this concept couples try to understand the need for “personal” or “me” time for the individual in the relationship. Whereby each individual can look for ways to express their unique self. Modern couples understand the value and importance of this personal space and how having it can make the relationship better.
Similarly the overall expectations from a relationship are changing. No longer roles are defined by genders but more based on skill, availability and ability. And this change is being accepted strongly socially too.
The result of all this transition is the Warm-Hearted Man….
The warm-hearted man is someone who is sensitive towards others, understanding about emotions, responsible, responsive and expressive.
I see a lot of warm-hearted men these days but the section that has captured my heart is the warm-hearted father. These fathers are an involved parent to their child. The not only help out in physical tasks ( a lot of dads did that already) but really make the effort to stay connected to the child emotionally. They invest in building a sensitive relationship with the child and through the child with the mother (I am not talking about the connect with the partner as a wife/girlfriend but as a mother)
These men have a real exchange about life’s emotions with their children. They do not guard or protect them from adult life but somehow make these kids a part of their real life in a beautiful manner. The love they show with kids is beautiful to watch. He does understand that the role of a parent can never be underestimated…
So many people think that they are not gifted because they don’t have an obvious talent that people can recognize because it doesn’t fall under the creative arts category—writing, dancing, music, acting, art or singing. Sadly, they let their real talents go undeveloped, while they chase after fame. I am grateful for the people with obscure unremarked talents because they make our lives easier—inventors, organizers, planners, peacemakers, communicators, activists, scientists, and so forth. However, there is one gift that trumps all other talents—being an excellent parent. If you can successfully raise a child in this day in age to have integrity then you have left a legacy that future generations will benefit from.
– Shannon Alder
What are the qualities of this warm-hearted man?
He thinks about roles in person not in gender: for ages, the roles were divided based on gender but the new warm-hearted man looks at roles in a relationship based on skill, availability, ability or such other considerations. This makes him open and sensitive to the feelings and needs of people around him
He is not scared to show his emotional side: the new warm-hearted man does not feel showing emotions is a sign of weakness. In fact, the warm-hearted mom feels emotions are a way to connect with people and himself.
He is extremely gentle with the kids: the image of the father was rather stern and strict when I was young. But the new warm-hearted man is extremely caring and gentle with the kids. The way he signs lullabies, to the way he kisses away boo boos is heartwarming.
He is approachable: The warm-hearted man is easy to approach as he puts value on how people around him feel. If they don’t seem fine, he will ask and be open to sharing feelings.
Yes, times are changing and they always will, but in this case we are at a rather sweet spot with men!
Photo by Federico Enni @kingrawen